Where to sit

So you’re going to meet someone for lunch.  An old friend.  A new friend.  A business deal. Whatever.

You arrive at the table and your lunch date is already seated. Perfect. It’s your turn to sit down. But where to sit? Answer: Sit on an adjacent side. Never sit across the table from the other person (unless you’re at a booth or have no other choice).

Why? Sitting directly across from someone can turn conversation into confrontation. Explanation into opposition. But sitting on a diagonal from friend or foe gives both of you a common focal point (and prevents awkward eye contact games) and puts both parties in body-posture ease.

And if you arrive first? Move to an adjacent seat after your friend sits down (if they haven’t read this post, that is).

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